[Build] Migrate most of the build logic from Project.buildDir usage

It's going to be deprecated in Gradle 8.3

There's currently no way to pass a `org.gradle.api.provider.Provider` to the JavaExec.systemProperty or Test.systemProperty. There's a workaround using `org.gradle.process.CommandLineArgumentProvider`, but I intentionally don't rework these calls as Gradle is going to allow passing providers to configure system properties: https://github.com/gradle/gradle/issues/12247#issuecomment-1568427242
^KTI-1473 In Progress

kotlin-native/performance/videoplayer/build.gradle.kts

@@ -77,7 +77,7 @@ compileBenchmark {
             command = listOf(
                 "$dist/bin/konanc$toolSuffix",
                 "-ea", "-p", "program",
-                "-o", "${buildDir.absolutePath}/program$binarySuffix",
+                "-o", layout.buildDirectory.file("program$binarySuffix").get().asFile.toString(),
                 "-l", "$videoplayerDir/build/classes/kotlin/videoPlayer/main/videoplayer-cinterop-ffmpeg.klib",
                 "-l", "$videoplayerDir/build/classes/kotlin/videoPlayer/main/videoplayer-cinterop-sdl.klib",
                 "-Xmulti-platform", "$videoplayerDir/src/videoPlayerMain/kotlin",