Change CLI flags for controlling diagnostics for ABI of FIR and JVM IR

- Use a more generic `-Xallow-unstable-dependencies` instead of
  `-Xallow-jvm-ir-dependencies`
- Change `-Xir-binary-with-stable-abi` to `-Xabi-stability=stable`, with
  an additional option to specify `unstable` after a subsequent commit
  where JVM IR becomes stable by default

 #KT-43592

compiler/cli/src/org/jetbrains/kotlin/cli/common/messages/AnalyzerWithCompilerReport.kt

@@ -186,7 +186,7 @@ class AnalyzerWithCompilerReport(
                 messageCollector.report(
                     ERROR,
                     "Classes compiled by a new Kotlin compiler backend were found in dependencies. " +
-                            "Remove them from the classpath or use '-Xallow-jvm-ir-dependencies' to suppress errors"
+                            "Remove them from the classpath or use '-Xallow-unstable-dependencies' to suppress errors"
                 )
             }
 
@@ -194,7 +194,7 @@ class AnalyzerWithCompilerReport(
                 messageCollector.report(
                     ERROR,
                     "Classes compiled by the new Kotlin compiler frontend were found in dependencies. " +
-                            "Remove them from the classpath or use '-Xallow-jvm-ir-dependencies' to suppress errors"
+                            "Remove them from the classpath or use '-Xallow-unstable-dependencies' to suppress errors"
                 )
             }
 

compiler/cli/src/org/jetbrains/kotlin/cli/jvm/jvmArguments.kt

@@ -173,7 +173,17 @@ fun CompilerConfiguration.configureAdvancedJvmOptions(arguments: K2JVMCompilerAr
 
     put(JVMConfigurationKeys.IR, arguments.useIR && !arguments.noUseIR)
 
-    put(JVMConfigurationKeys.ABI_STABILITY, if (arguments.isIrWithStableAbi) JvmAbiStability.STABLE else JvmAbiStability.UNSTABLE)
+    val abiStability = JvmAbiStability.fromStringOrNull(arguments.abiStability)
+    if (arguments.abiStability != null) {
+        if (abiStability == null) {
+            getNotNull(CLIConfigurationKeys.MESSAGE_COLLECTOR_KEY).report(
+                ERROR,
+                "Unknown ABI stability mode: ${arguments.abiStability}, supported modes: ${JvmAbiStability.values().map { it.description }}"
+            )
+        } else {
+            put(JVMConfigurationKeys.ABI_STABILITY, abiStability)
+        }
+    }
 
     put(JVMConfigurationKeys.DO_NOT_CLEAR_BINDING_CONTEXT, arguments.doNotClearBindingContext)
     put(JVMConfigurationKeys.DISABLE_CALL_ASSERTIONS, arguments.noCallAssertions)